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My child asked, "Is Santa real?" How should I answer?

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Is Santa real? It all depends on your point of view.

It's hard to know what to say when a child asks, "Is Santa real?"

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Question: My child asked, "Is Santa real?" How should I answer?
Answer: It's hard for parents to accept that their children are growing up. For many parents, it's downright painful to think that their child has grown out of the Santa years. By the time a child becomes a tween, he or she probably no longer believes in Santa. But some tweens still hold on to their childhood beliefs. The truth is, if your child is asking questions such as, "Is Santa real?" she probably already knows the truth, she's just looking for validation from you.

Is Santa Real? It's All About Perspective

If you think your child has it all figured out, it's a good idea to be truthful with her. When she asks, "Is Santa real?" you could explain that Saint Nicholas was, in fact, a real person from long ago. He was known for leaving presents for the children in his village, and for caring for the poor and unfortunate. The legend grew over time, becoming the story we all know. Be sure you include your family's beliefs and values in the conversation, reinforcing the fact that Santa exists in the hearts and souls of all people who are kind and generous.

Even adults understand that there is some magic to the legend of Santa Clause and that magic can't always be explained. How many sour hearts have been turned sweet by the inspiration of The Jolly Old Elf? Is that not magic? Is it not real? How has his legend managed to survive from generation to generation? And for generations to come? Reality is often about perspective. If your child understands that belief and faith are choices we all make, she may choose to believe in something even greater and enduring.

It might also be time to review some of your family's Christmas traditions. Instead of writing a letter to Santa every year, your tween could become a Secret Santa for a younger sibling or neighborhood child. Or, she could bake cookies or bread for elderly neighbors.

Your daughter may no longer look for reindeer on Christmas Eve, but she might be ready to embrace the spirit of Santa Clause in a different way, and spread the joy of giving in her own special way. Helping her do so guarantees that in her heart, Santa will live forever, and is, in fact, very real.

So, when your tween asks, "Is Santa real?" you can answer, "Yes, he is. But not in the way you think. Here's what I mean..."

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