You knew the teen years were going to be a challenge, but before you even get there you have to conquer the in-between years, also known as the tween years. Preteens can be difficult to parent, and even more difficult to live with, but preteens have a lot going on and they need your guidance and patience. These next few years will help determine the teen your preteen will become, so make the most of them.
Even the word "puberty" can be a turnoff to preteens. With all the changes preteens experience physically and emotionally, it's no wonder they can get grumpy and angry from time to time. This phase of development will test your patience, but don't fall short now. Preteens need their parents to guide them through puberty, help them understand their changing bodies and all the social and sexual changes that are also taking place. This is perhaps the greatest challenge for parents of preteens, but take it one day at a time and you'll see your tween through to the end.
preparing your preteens for middle school long before that first day of school. The transition should take place during the final year of elementary school, and also in the summer months leading up to middle school.
chores or family responsibilities. Preteens will push your buttons frequently, and you'll find yourself wondering what's happened to your sweet child. Don't worry, you didn't break your tween. This is all normal behavior for preteens, but that doesn't mean it's acceptable behavior. Parenting requires that you take the time to set limits for your children, and teach them about those limits and why they're in place. It's also important to enforce rules and consequences when your tween doesn't follow your expectations.
and confusion to preteens.
Understanding Social PressuresPreteens worry about bullying, fitting in, making friends and beginning the whole dating scene. Remember, although your child is growing up, he or she is still not prepared to handle many social pressures without your assistance and guidance. Be sure your preteens understand that they can come to you with questions about bullying, peer pressure and other social problems that might be bothering them. In addition, keep in contact with other parents of preteens in order to stay up-to-date on what's going on in the community.
get into trouble. Period. But you can still minimize trouble and prevent some of the bigger problems by frequently chatting with your preteen about his life, what's troubling him, and what his friends are up to. It's OK to allow tweens a little freedom, and if they keep your trust they may earn more freedom in the coming years. But now is not the time to let your guard down with your preteen. Make sure he or she understands your rules and consequences. Be sure you explain why he's not allowed to hang out with teenagers who are much older, or go places alone at night. Be specific about your family's values concerning smoking, drinking and other drug use.