But that doesn’t mean communication between parent and child ends when a child becomes a preteen. You can still have meaningful discussions with your tween, you’ll just have to time them right, keep them short and avoid too much lecturing.
Below are tips on communicating with your tween. Remember them, because they’re also helpful with communicating with teens, and that time is just around the corner.
Tips on How to Communicate with Children Through the Tween YearsPick Your Time: Communicating is all about timing. It’s hard to have a meaningful discussion with your tween when he’s upset or angry. Instead, focus on starting conversations during “down” times. For example, you might want to initiate a conversation while you’re driving your tween to soccer practice, while you’re having a family dinner together, or while you’re watching television. Bedtime can also be a good time to talk with your tween, when the day’s activities are over and everything is winding down.
Avoid tying to get a conversation going during the morning, when your child is trying to get ready for school, or when he’s hanging out with his friends. The key to establishing a good back and forth conversation is to take the time to do it right. Make sure you or your child aren't rushing to go somewhere, or distracted by other activities.Put it in Writing: Sometimes a good conversation can take place via email, or through a personalized letter. If you’re having trouble telling your child something important, or if you think it would be less embarrassing for him to read what you have to say, consider putting it in writing. End by letting your tween know that you’re ready to talk in person when he is, and of course, that you love him very much. Think About Fun Conversation Starters: Not every discussion has to be about something serious. You can have a great conversation by discussion everyday things. Try to get a conversation going by asking silly or fun questions, such as: